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My 1:1s turned into status updates. How do I fix that?

Say it directly next time, then actually stop them when they slip back into it.

Say it directly in the next one: “I want to stop using this time for status updates, we've got Slack and standup for that. I want to use it for whatever's actually stuck, or whatever you're thinking about for your own growth.” Then hold to it. The first time someone starts rattling off ticket statuses, stop them, not harshly: “That's great, drop it in the channel, what's actually on your mind this week?”

It usually slides into status updates because of you, not them. Show up without a real question and they'll fill the silence with the easiest thing to talk about, which is whatever they did this week. Come in with one specific question that can't be answered with a status update: “What's the most annoying part of your week right now?” or “What do you wish I knew about but probably don't?”

Split the time on purpose. First ten minutes is theirs, whatever they want to bring. Next ten is about their growth, not this week's work, what they're learning, where they want to go. Last five is anything you actually need from them. Skip that structure and the meeting defaults back to a status check every time, because that's the path of least resistance for both of you.

Give it three weeks before deciding it's not working. The first one or two will probably feel short and a little awkward, because neither of you has practice using the time this way yet. That's normal, not a sign you're doing it wrong.

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