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Day 90 · Move 04

Ask for feedback on yourself before day 90 ends.

You're setting the norm that feedback runs in both directions from the start. Wait too long and asking starts to feel like an event instead of a habit.

If the first time your team gives you feedback is in month six, you've already lost three months of course-correcting. Asking early, before it's expected of you, sets the norm that this runs both ways from the start.

Step 1: Ask a specific question, not a general one
"How am I doing?" invites a polite non-answer. "What's one thing I could do differently in our 1:1s?" invites something usable.
Step 2: Offer a written option, not just a spoken one
Some people will tell you more in an anonymous form than in conversation this early in the relationship. Offer both channels.
Step 3: Respond to what you hear, visibly
Even a small, visible change based on feedback teaches people it was worth their time to give it. Silence after asking teaches the opposite.
Step 4: Ask again at day 180
One round isn't a habit, it's an event. Repeating it on a set schedule is what actually builds the norm.
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